Do you feel emotionally empty?
Do you feel detached from your family and friends?
Do you look into the mirror and feel like you see a different person?
Do you feel like a robot, operating life on auto-pilot?
Do you feel that there is no joy in your life?
Do you have a surreal feeling as you go through your daily life?
If you identify with the above, you might be struggling with or a form of dissociation known as depersonalization. Emotional numbness is prevalent in our emotion-phobic modern society- yet it is one of the most underestimated and unaccounted for conditions.
Emotional numbness can be difficult to imagine if you haven’t experienced it yourself. Some people describe it as feeling emptiness or despondency, while others report feeling isolated. Some feel as though they have no future or that there is no hope for the numbness to ever fade.
Emotional detachment is an inability or unwillingness to connect with other people on an emotional level. For some people, being emotionally detached helps protect them from unwanted drama, anxiety, or stress.
For others, the detachment isn’t always voluntary. It’s instead the result of events that make the person unable to be open and honest about their emotions.
Growing up, however, many of us learned that there were times when it was necessary to hide our feelings – to protect ourselves or others, to show respect, or to generally keep the peace. We became accustomed and skilled at hiding and not showing our feelings.
While there are some in this world who are not able to express themselves properly due to severe personality disorders (e.g. schizoid personality disorder); generally, a healthy display of emotions should be the norm for youngsters and adults alike.
The healthy expression of emotions is necessary to connect with others so it is important that we learn how properly express ourselves. Thankfully, it is possible to get the feelings back.
For those who have experienced a painful past, the idea of having no feelings may seem ideal. But this is not how things are meant to be. As beings created in God’s image and likeness (Genesis 1:26-27), emotions are an important part of the human package as God also has emotions. Throughout the Old Testament, God the Father displays emotions of joy, love, compassion, grief, and righteous anger.
The best way to overcome emotional numbness is to seek professional help. A mental health professional — preferably one who focuses on trauma-based care — will be able to give you the skills you need to cope. A therapist will help you figure out the root cause of your trauma and why you’re numbing your emotions in the first place. Additionally, they provide you with a safe space to work through your problems.
If you are experiencing Emotional numbness, I want you to know that in your a world where we often can’t feel a thing, where we think we’re weak and falling short, feel like we don’t be belong, we are encouraged to that there is a Creator who is whispering to our hearts, telling us that we are held and strong and LOVED!