Don’t live your life impressing others

“We all have different things that we go through in our everyday life, and it’s really important to know just at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what you face, you know that you’re going to win at the end of the day. You got to believe in yourself. You got to believe in God, know that He’s going to get you through it.” – Kelly Rowland.

“Believe in yourself and stop trying to convince others” – James De La Vega

“If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward.” – Martin Luther King Jr.

“Every day is a new opportunity. You can build on yesterday’s success or put its failure behind and start over again. That’s the way life is, with a new game every day.”– Bob Feller.

“The most common trouble with advertising is that it tries too hard to impress people.” – James Randolph Adams.

“Too many people spend money they haven’t earned, to buy things they don’t want, to impress people they don’t like.”

~ Will Rogers

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu

“Before you do anything: think. If you do something to try and impress someone, to be loved, accepted or even to get someone’s attention, stop and think. So many people are busy trying to create an image, they die in the process. “ Salma Hayek

I hate to admit it, the desire to impress others is always there in me. There is that invisible pressure that lurks somewhere deep inside my heart every time I meet someone new or even the friends I already have.

Do you ever find yourself pulled between what you want and what others want for you? Are you too afraid to be your true self or share your real thoughts? Do you care too much about what other people think? 

So how do you want to change this?

Use the following tips next time you find yourself in a situation to impress others:

  • The people you want to impress, just want you to be yourself.  Ignore the comparisons and expectations you set upon yourself.  No one is judging you.  If they are, they are not the right person to have in your life.  The only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday.  The RIGHT people will like you for who you are and appreciate all the things you bring to their life.  Stop changing your beliefs and learn to love all the great things you can offer others.  The key is to be patient.  Sometimes you have to get through the bad to get to the right people.
  • Life isn’t a race, you have nothing to prove to others.  As the saying goes, “it’s not about the destination, it’s the journey there.”  Some people like to race through life and make a point that they reached their goal first or made it to the top first.  The truth is, your growth occurs when you’re climbing to reach your goal and not when you reach the top.  Life is not about rushing through it.  It’s meant to be enjoyed, every step of the way.  Let go of the need to do what everyone else is doing.  They are not living your life, you are.  Life is the journey that you’ve created for yourself.
  • Failure is a part of life.  We learn our greatest lessons from our failures.  Any client that I train, I tell them to expect failure on their journey.  This is not a negative thing but rather a process to find your inner strength and how to use it moving forward.  We are all a work in progress.  Our life goals never end, they continue.  If you try too hard to impress others with your perfection, you will stunt your growth.  Don’t spend all your time looking a certain way instead of living a certain way.  If you are too afraid to fail, then you are not truly living.   It doesn’t matter how many times you fail as long as your journey is about moving forward.
  • Give up your self-defeating self-talk. Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
  • Refuse to react. When you care and someone is ungrateful or not nice, you react negatively. When you react to other people, the only person who gets hurts is you. If you want to feel good about yourself, walk away. Letting someone else’s actions overpower how you feel about yourself or how you go about the rest of your day gives them control over you. You are caring more about what they did than how you are feeling. Put your emotions ahead of the actions of others.
  • Be patient. You are not a robot. You cannot stop caring overnight. There isn’t a switch you can flip to learn how not to care. Let yourself come to terms will why you care so much. Take this step by step. You may even want to see a therapist to keep yourself on track and work through the deeper reasons why you care so much.
  • YOU are the only person that can change YOUR life.  If you are waiting around that someone else is going to make you a better, happier, healthier person, you are going to die a lonely unhappy person.  It is your responsibility that if you want to change your health situation, it is completely up to you.  Don’t let the opinions of others interfere with the reality of life.  What YOU are capable of achieving depends entirely on the path you choose for yourself.  Stop worrying about what everyone thinks.  They don’t have to wake up in  your shoes every morning, you do.  They don’t choose what you eat, you do.  They don’t choose your healthy or unhealthy habits, you do.  Keep living your truth.

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