If you’ve tried and failed to stay on focus in a project you are working on, you probably already know how easy it is to slip up or to fail. From everyday stress to ill health, life can often get in the way of the best intentions.
Going off track is completely normal, but it’s important to be prepared for a slip up and know how to bounce back if you’re to succeed at creating a healthier lifestyle.
This blog will show you how to pick yourself up when things go wrong.
BE KIND TO YOURSELF.
First of all, don’t beat yourself up. We all get off track sometimes, usually for reasons out of our control. Acknowledge that things aren’t going the way you want, but don’t blame yourself. If you hear yourself saying, “I should have …” stop. Ask this instead: How do I deal with situation? What can I do differently next time? What can I learn from this experience?
When things go awry, complaining doesn’t accomplish anything. Whining about what has gone wrong only delays things even further. Instead, take action. Do something about it.
Recognize the deeper issue
Making changes for the better often means taking a good, hard look in the mirror. And that takes a lot of honesty and courage to face those underlying issues.
We tend to think that working harder, being more productive, or throwing money at a problem will get us through a slump.
Some problems simply don’t have an easy fix. Unfortunately, sometimes the solution requires deeper work.
It could mean a painful solution, like therapy. It could mean a big scary change, like leaving a toxic relationship or workplace. It could mean facing something you have tried to avoid looking at, like a health issue building up, whether it’s physical or psychological.
No amount of productivity and focus can help when you try to avoid dealing with the deeper issue. If you want to change, you need to find a better way. It’s time to address what you’ve been ignoring.
Yes, things may have gone off track… so do something about that. Talking with someone is a good place to start.
Learn from your experience.
If you don’t recognize what led you to fall off the diet wagon, you’ll probably react the same way the next time the situation arises. Write down a list of the situations that trigger you to overeat, and plan an alternative for each. For example, if parties are your downfall, have a healthy snack beforehand to keep your appetite in check.
Everyone goes through difficult times.
Most of the time when we find ourselves in an unhappy place it’s because of our own doing.
Most of our problems we create for ourself.
You get to a place of being fed up and you know something has to change.
That ‘something’ is you. As you change so does the world around you.
What’s done is done. The past is the past.
Leave it where it is.
Start From Little Things
Each droplet makes an ocean. When things don’t work out optimally in life, remember that you still have control over the tiny little things that are around you. This could be as insignificant as organizing your drawer or cleaning your house—but it will surely help you regain control over your life. Remember that even tiny things can accumulate into massive life-changing momentum.
Focus On Effort, Not Results
“Sometimes, things may not go your way, but the effort should be there every single night.” Said Michael Jordan about playing professional basketball.
The NBA is one of the longest competitions in the world. Their regular season takes six months and 82 games. That’s excluding the playoffs.
And in basketball, many different factors influence the outcome of a game. Your best player can get two quick fouls in the first few minutes, and not see any playing time until the late second quarter. The refs might miss certain calls. You name it.
NBA teams, regardless of how good they are, will lose multiple games during a season. And it’s easy to allow a loss pull you into a negative spiral. That’s why a lot of teams that lose, keep losing.
Like the legendary football coach, Vince Lombardi said, “Winning is a habit. Unfortunately, so is losing.”
I like that mindset. And you win by focusing on your effort, as Michael Jordan said.
But when you’re in a rut, it’s easy to focus on your results. You might gain weight, lose money, and not get the results you want at work, but you must never forget one thing: You will get back on track.
But that requires us to focus on our effort. That’s the only thing that brings us back on track. The results will follow automatically
Drop the negative influences
Negativity likes company and chances are that if you are negative a lot, you tolerate a high number of other people with a similar mentality. You may not be aware of how much energy you’re expending to stay still.
From here on out, vow to clean out your environment. Get yourself a more supportive community and protect the fire within you. You’ll realize that many of the negative voices in your head were echoes of stuff your friends and family said to you. Relight that inner spark and find yourself a community that wants to encourage the new you
Try new adventures
Trying something new will make you feel better. It will give you a feeling of self-satisfaction. Use failure as a motivation to try something you have always avoided due to fear of failure. You got nothing to lose now and take that step right away. It may be learning a new language or instrument or an adventure sport. This new experience will eliminate the negative thoughts of the past and will help you focus on the present.
“We keep moving forward, opening new doors, and doing new things, because we’re curious and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths. “— Walt Disney.