Choose Not to Be The Victim

Victims stay victims because they don’t move beyond their victim mentality, they get stuck in it. Only you can define yourself as being stuck in a situation. If you don’t want to be cheated on, then you have to get up and leave. By choosing to stay and do nothing, you are making a choice to remain stuck. If you want to build a business, stop blaming your lack of time and start cancelling less important things to make room for building, learning and planning.

Stop being the victim and begin taking those incremental steps towards realizing your full potential and breaking free of those barriers that hold you back. By changing the belief that you have to be a martyr and by shattering your limiting beliefs, you can make it past any negative circumstance in your life and begin to make positive strides in the right direction.


The way to stop being a victim is to take responsibility for the part that you play in the scenario. By recognizing the behaviors that got you where you are, you are more likely not to put yourself in the same situation twice. Not being the victim involves recognizing how you got where you are and what benefit you are gaining from staying there. You then have to make a conscious decision to take action and move on from where you are rather than waiting for you’re your situation to change.


Do you Believe you can do what God said you can do?

I am an optimist, who believe that something good will happen to me. May be my faith in God has something to do with my optimism. Part of being optimistic is keeping one’s head pointed toward the sun, one’s feet moving forward.

There have been many dark moments when my faith in humanity was tested, but I would not and could not give myself up to despair. I still believed that after the storm there will be a rainbow and calmness. I always wait for my rainbow.

While life can be hard at the best of times, faith is the knowledge, deep down inside, that things will get better. It is that power and energy in us that speak in the future we hope to achieve. It is very much like my vision to go to places beyond my village. It’s taking the next step when you can’t see the entire staircase.

Simply put it, life would fail to have reason if we didn’t have faith.When you allow God to truly lead, guide, and direct you, He normally takes us you far beyond your wildest dreams. Remember that our God, the one who sits on the circle of the earth, is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we can ask or think (Eph 3:20).ith is the power of our convictions

I felt a sense of ‘bigness outside myself’

Active faith includes speaking and doing. When Jesus cursed the fig tree, He spoke to it. He did not just believe that it would dry up from the roots and die. He believed and commanded it to dry up from the roots and die. He spoke His desired result. He then commanded His disciples to do the same thing, except that He gave them a much bigger example – a mountain.


We do not realize that faith is released into the world by speaking, very much like I did when I saw when growing up in Kenya, I saw hope that my vision was not restrained to the fables and stories about giants who lived in mountains beyond. I felt a surge of hope, future. I felt a sense of ‘bigness outside myself’, a sense of the majesty of the world around us, and of just how small we are, in comparison to the big picture ahead and around us.I saw my life branching out before me like the fern trees . From the tip of every branch, there before me was my future beckoning.. I saw myself going places for studies and I believed it. Each and every day of my life in Kenya has given birth to today. It has been years since I left Kenya, now I am living in Canada,I live the hope created in those humble Kenyan years.

I bring hope to all of you fighting battles alone. To all of you going against the grain, battling the naysayers I stay strong! Keep going, keep believing! is walk is hard. But the hardest walks lead to the greatest destinations. The toughest climbs always lead to the best view. It WILL be worth it in the end.And if you show what you are made of, the RIGHT people will show up in your life. You have qualities only few can admire, because most don’t possess. You have strength only few can understand, because most have never experienced.


Your life’s purpose. Why finding your own starfish is essential

When I have been at my lowest, not believing that I could dream again I always read the story of The Starfish Thrower, which was a pivotal turning point for me. This well known story by American author Loren Eiseley (1907-1977) that goes something like this:

“There was an old man who would take a walk on the beach every morning before he began his work. One day, he was walking after a big storm had passed and found the vast beach littered with starfish as far as the eye could see, stretching in both directions. He noticed a small boy approaching. As the boy walked closer, the man could see that he was occasionally bending down to pick up an object and throw it into the sea. The boy came closer and the man called out, ‘Good morning! May I ask what it is that you are doing?’ The young boy paused, looked up, and replied ‘Throwing starfish into the ocean.


The storm has washed them up onto the beach and they can’t return to the sea by themselves,’ the youth replied. ‘They will die, unless I throw them back into the water.’ The old man replied, ‘But there must be tens of thousands of starfish on this beach. I’m afraid you won’t really be able to make much of a difference.’ The boy bent down, picked up yet another starfish and threw it as far as he could into the ocean. Then he turned, smiled and said, ‘It made a difference to that one!’” (adapted from The Star Thrower, 1969, 1977).

These story has been re-told many times by many authors, motivational speakers and spiritual leaders. No matter the variations among versions, the lesson is always the same—every single effort has the potential to make a positive difference in the world. In this story we see that there is something very special in each and every one of us. We all have been gifted with the ability to make a difference. We all have the opportunity to help create positive change, but if you’re like me, you sometimes find yourself thinking, “I’m already really busy, and how much of a difference can I really make?”


So when I catch myself thinking that way, it helps to remember this story.  If we can become aware of the many gifts we have, we gain through the strength of our visions, the power to shape the future. We must each find in our own ways our starfish and then all of us can make a difference in both our professional and personal lives. We can be the starfishes in our lives – the people for whom we can make a difference. How can we make a difference?

Every problem is an opportunity in disguise

Every problem is an opportunity in disguise. Challenges will always exist. This is a fact of life. Not every plan works out. There will be losses, disappointments, and roadblocks. Your job may vanish, your stocks may crash, your car may crash… you will experience problems with friendships, family and relationships… someone whom you trust may betray you… someone whom you love may stop loving you back… someone whom you love will die… You WILL be challenged and you often won’t have control over these events. It is challenges that make life what it is. It is challenges that make life interesting. If you experience no challenges, you will become bored, and you will stagnate. How you handle your particular challenges determine who you become and what rewards you get from life.


You can look at the same problem in two different ways: you can view a glass of water as half empty or half full. Your challenge in the game is to find these opportunities and to capitalize on them so that you achieve the personal growth and become a more evolved, more capable individual and also that you find the opportunity for material gain and enhance the material quality of your life.

You’ve got the right stuff and in order for you to succeed, you have to use what you have. Then you’ll have extremely high chances for success, and a real basis for strong, positive, living faith.This is what living faith means, to faithfully expect success and faithfully invest in the achievement of it. Your heart knows what it wants, and it also knows what you have to do to make that happen. So listen to your heart, have faith in its wisdom, and live your faith — you can’t fail that way.


Why do mother giraffes kick their babies? A lesson for us all.

While visiting Nairobi Giraffe Center I learnt some great stories about Giraffes,I want to share of the stories in the following blog. BABY giraffes learn a very important lesson about life when they are born.

A lesson that all of us would do well to remember. The birth of a baby giraffe is quite an earth-shaking event.  The baby falls from its mother’s womb, some eight feet above the ground. It shrivels up and lies still, too weak to move.  The mother giraffe lovingly lowers her neck to smooch the baby giraffe. And then something incredible happens. She lifts her long leg and kicks the baby giraffe, sending it flying up in the air and tumbling down on the ground.

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As the baby lies curled up, the mother kicks the baby again. And again. Until the baby giraffe, still trembling and tired, pushes its limbs and for the first time learns to stand on its feet. Happy to see the baby standing on its own feet, the mother giraffe comes over and gives it yet another kick. The baby giraffe falls one more time, but now quickly recovers and stands up. Mama Giraffe is delighted. She knows that her baby has learnt an important lesson:  Never mind how hard you fall, always remember to pick yourself up and get back on your feet. Why does the mother giraffe do this? She knows that lions and hyenas love giraffe meat. So unless the baby giraffe quickly learns to stand and run with the pack it will have no chance of survival.

Most of us though are not quite as lucky as baby giraffes. No one teaches us to stand up every time we fall. When we fail, when we are down, we just give up. No one kicks us out of our zones to remind us that to survive and succeed, we need to learn to get back on our feet.The road to success is never an easy one. There are several obstacles, and you are bound to fall sooner or later. You will hit a road block, you will taste failure. The road to success is never an easy one. It is a path riddled with obstacles and problems, a rough journey that can wear down even the strongest of individuals and spirits.The road to success is never an easy one. It is a path riddled with obstacles and problems, a rough journey that can wear down even the strongest of individuals and spirits.


Listening with an open Heart

In my journeys both in Kenya and Canada,I have met with thousands of people. I have met with people from almost every country in the world,and through my interactions I have been blessed to receive a part of them that has opened my eyes and heart,the experiences have left me more wealthy and richer with knowledge and wisdom. I have learnt that we all have stories and great journeys,and that deep down in us we trust we will not be quickly judged by others using our past,we all have longings to be given a chance to tell our stories from our own perspective, a new chance with a blank check of acceptance.The stories we tell are as real to us as the feeling of rain on our face. They take on shape and form in our minds, directing our perceptions of the world around us. Through those stories we decide how to see our world, estimate our abilities, and approach our relationships and connections.


In organizations, poor listening is responsible for the loss of billions of dollars due to unnecessary mistakes, lost opportunities, ineffectiveness and deficiencies.

In relationships, poor listening is responsible for disconnectedness from our families, loved ones, friends and customers. It is the cause of breakdowns and break ups.

Being unable to tell your story is a living death. The right to speak is a form of wealth that is redistributed to others. Stories save lives. And stories are our lives. We are our stories; stories that can be both prison and the crowbar to break open the door of that prison. Any amount of words that we share will never be told in the same order by anyone else. Listen to the beauty of people’s lives: the way their eyes gleam when they tell you the happiest moment of their lives, the way the tears fall when they tell us about their saddest moments.

I encourage you and myself to let your walls down as others do to us and grasp every detail that embodies every second of that person’s story. Let it consume us, lose our-self in their stories like we do with our favorite movies or TV show. We may not be able to change the way their life went, but the fact that we were interested enough to be part of their story makes a world to them. I encourage you to stop looking at the scars other people left you with. It’s time to look at the other point of view and try to see what you are capable of and believe me, you have the potential to do the greatest things.

I encourage you to listen with an open heart and an open mind to those who who are in the space that you have created or opened for them to share their stories. You may hear a grain of truth that will later become the foundation of your entire belief system.It is a generous act of giving when we allow someone the space to be exactly who they are and exactly who they are not. This takes the ability to authentically listen with Heart.By listening with an open Heart, it is love in action. By listening with mindfulness, it is the way for making every interaction become memorable. Lead from within: The Heart of listening is a gift to yourself and others. everyone you meet can impact and change your life.


God does not give all details of our dreams

When Joseph was sold into slavery by his brothers and then when he was locked up in the prison house, it must have seemed to him that all those dreams he dreamed as a younger man had really meant nothing He had dreamed that God was going to make something special out of his life, but here he is going nowhere fast. It must have seemed like God had forgotten all about Joseph. Surely, Joseph felt alone, deserted and defeated by the trials and problems he faced.


Notice that even in the prison, Joseph remained faithful. For him, it was just another place of service. This tells us a lot about this man named Joseph. He was a man of integrity, who was going to remain faithful to the Lord despite his circumstances. Even in this prison experience, we do not find Joseph sitting in his cell whining about how unfair everything is. We find him being a man of God, even when nothing is going his way! Abraham was one such man. Although he was advanced in age and his wife was barren, God promised him a child and, at the designated time, that promise was fulfilled.

Earlier God had spoken to Abraham, saying, “Get out of your country from your family and from your father’s house, to a land that I will show you. I will make you a great nation; I will bless you and make your name great; and you shall be a blessing” (Genesis 12:1– 2). Notice that when God spoke to Abraham, He never laid out the complete picture of his life. When He told Abraham to leave his country, God didn’t tell him where he was going or how to get there, yet Abraham obeyed. God isn’t going to lay out all the details of a dream before us; He gives us one piece of the puzzle at a time. It’s up to us to connect each of the pieces by faith in His Word. Each step toward a dream must be taken in faith. That’s just what Abraham did.


Let it grow

I believe that every human being was born for a special reason; we are not here just to survive but we’re all born with the natural inclination to thrive, but somewhere along our path, we lose it and start to survive.  I believe we’re a product of our choices; thus, I know we can change journeys from survival to thriving journeys. We can begin to paint our lives with our new thoughts, our new minds, our open hearts full of hope, joy and peace, and we can let love work miracles through us rather than letting fear block our light any longer.


We own our light and we own the love that we are and its ability to save us from our own suffering and tendency to live in survival journeys. We can be who we came here to be. And show the world that just by you existing proves its thinking and beliefs and limitations to be false evidence appearing real. Each person is different and how you got to where you are is part of your story. Many factors could be contributing to how you feel, but when you stop re-creating the same problem over and over again, you can free yourself of the survival mode trap. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to experience a life of thriving? You can have emotional, spiritual, and physical wellness like never before.

You need to throw yourself out into the open field – let it grow. Life is too short to be unhappy. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but to be happy, you need to move towards the ocean.Some fish love to swim upstream. Some people love to overcome challenges. Innovation and spirituality is like swimming upstream. Originality and innovations need immense focus. You need right approach. You need to dig deeper to find out your unique ways of understanding the truths. Always press forward in pursuit of your goals. Keep your mind clear and focused.


The call within the call

“You’ve gotta be able to see the beauty in a hamburger bun, “ said Ray Kroc, founder of McDonalds.

Debbi Fields, founder of Mrs. Fields Cookies, echoed the same theme. “I am not a businesswoman. I’m a cookie person.”

Southwest Airlines President Emeritus Colleen Barrett says it this way: “We are not an airline with great customer service. We are a great customer service organization that happens to be in the airline business.”

Sometimes when others are quick to shoot down your convictions, it is because they themselves do not have any convictions. It is always easier to mock others’ beliefs rather than choose something to stand for. Conviction is being fully convinced about your course in life without any reservation. Once you connect with your purpose, conviction is born.

It means stepping into the unknown, the true nature of impermanence, beyond the incessant attention to what works for me. It means inspiring myself with the intricate interdependence of life, such as the capacity of trees, as documented in The Secret Life of Trees by Colin Tudge, to care for the individual trees in need at any given time through a complex interconnected root system, thereby caring fully for their entire community’s capacity to thrive.

A great example is Mother Theresa, after consistently witnessing the Indian people in Kolkata suffer and perish in poverty, she could not take it anymore. She was a prominent teacher, doing well in her career but something of higher value to her interrupted that career. She later called this experience as “the call within the call,” she goes on and says, “I was to leave the convent and help the poor while living among them. It was an order. To fail would have been to break the faith.” This was her cause, nobody would have understood it better than she did, seeing the people destitute, starving and in dire poverty forced her out of her comfortable teaching career and she went on to develop missionaries to care for the poor. And needless to say the history books remember her every day, she lived life to the fullest and left an indelible mark that no one can erase.


God is limitless in his love and power

God is infinite. God is all-powerful, all-knowing, all-capable. There are no limits restricting God. Yet despite this, to their own harm His followers tend to minimize God’s unlimited power by erroneous thinking. We will look at some promises of God’s word that will dispel that anti-biblical thinking and open you up to receiving the unlimited, immeasurable blessings of God.

God is limitless in his love and power. He is timeless. No age or boundaries of time to hold God. He is the creator of all things.


What’s your reason for getting up in the morning?

As the old proverb says, “A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle.”People who live a life of purpose wake up each morning eager to face the new day. They pursue their dreams with fervor, put their heart into everything they do, and feel that they’re personally making a difference. As James Dean, the actor, once said, “Dream as if you’ll live forever. Live as if you’ll die today.”

What’s your reason for getting up in the morning?

In Japan, millions of people have ikigai (pronounced Ick-ee-guy)— a reason to jump out of bed each morning. The Japanese island of Okinawa, where ikigai has its origins, is said to be home to the largest population of centenarians in the world.It roughly means the “thing that you live for” or “the reason for which you get up in the morning.” In a nutshell, it encompasses the idea that happiness in life is about more than money or a fancy job title.These days, my reason for getting out of bed is to work on projects that re-imagine society and education. For someone who spent decades struggling to find a reason to get out of bed, it is now a refreshing change to have this deep sense of purpose. My health and well-being have radically improved during recent years, too. The primary reason for this has not been the healthy choices I have made or the diets I have followed, but because I now live with a sense of purpose – and that is the platform for all the other decisions I make.